It’s so easy to give up on our personal goals whether it’s losing weight, exercising more, traveling more, or tackling that next home improvement project, etc. It’s hard enough to take the plunge to set a goal, let alone achieve it. But did you ever notice that we are prone to give up when the going gets tough? As easy as it is to set a goal, it’s even easier to give up on it or ourselves. About five years ago my light ignited and my journey to self-discovery was set in motion when I initiated my weight loss “program”. I wish I could bottle and sell or at least give away what kept me going. People ask me what my secret is, and all I can respond is hard work and a lot of tears, sweat and perseverance. But that’s such a superficial answer. If I knew what the secret is, I would be a billionaire right now, and would have appeared on Oprah a long time ago. When I really think about a meaningful answer for what all this transformation and self-discovery was a product of, I realize it all boils down to belief and faith. The bottom line is, if we don’t believe and have faith in ourselves and our inner strength to persevere, we might still achieve our goals one day, but the process is going to be a little more painful.
Transforming and growing can be tough and I’ve been having growing pains lately. I’m going to tell it like it is. When the going gets tough – mothering, working, friending, training, dog walking, designing (have to include an actual verb!), it’s easy to want to give up and stop caring. It’s easy to just say: “I can’t take on so much anymore and pursue all of my passions; I’m not cut out for this. I’m not going to strive to be the best I can be, I’m just going to settle for complacency”. But thank goodness my light is still ignited. It might not be roaring this week, but it’s still burning. It just needs a little coaxing and TLC!
So what did I do? Feeling extremely blue this morning (no offense sweet color blue!) I went back to my “roots”. I went to the gym determined to coax my light into a flame. I took myself back to the early days of my journey and got down and dirty. I attacked every push up, burpee, sprawl and snatch, squat and jack knife sit up (oh there was more stuff!) with every ounce of determination in my body. I pushed it and dug deep. And you know what, I left the floor feeling depleted but STRONG with belief that I WON’T GIVE UP. I can do this, and have a blast at the same time! It’s going to be painful and challenging, but the rewards are amazing!
If you have read this far, you are probably asking what the heck does this have to do with Interior Design and why is she blogging about her personal stuff and what she does at the gym? My candid answer to you is this: The next time you embark on a remodeling, new construction or home improvement project, don’t give up on the process, BELIEVE in it and have FAITH that the end result will be more amazing than you ever imagined! There will be obstacles and challenges – not problems – that will need resolution. There will be frustrations and feelings of self-doubt, especially because, bottom line, there’s the notion that you are spending your hard earned money and don’t want to make the wrong decisions. A good interior designer gets all of this, and it’s their job to be your cheerleader and coach throughout the entire process, so that when the going gets tough, you don’t give up on the process, settle for less and lose sight of your passion for what you really want. Like me, who has her tough days, you also might feel like giving up during your project, but don’t do it! Hang in there, persevere and have fun all at the same time.